Recently I have been thinking a lot about (you guessed it!) love and dating.
Now I’m nearly 16. I’ve had one boyfriend, when I was 13, but I suppose it doesn’t really count (I ‘felt something special’ so I asked him out, we were ‘together’ for 2 months, we went out a lot and did a lot of the cuddling/hand holding but not much of the kissing business).
A few (the majority) of my friends have had at least one serious enough relationship (and by that I mean going out for more than just a week).
Over the past few years I’ve had quite a few boys ask to go out with me, which is very flattering, but I declined every time (which hurts a lot, but surely not as much as being turned down). The thing is, I don’t know whether I should have or not.
At the end of last year, one particular boy asked me out, who I’d been friends with for a while. I really liked him. I said no. I was shy, afraid of how it was going to turn out. Scared that it would ruin our friendship if it didn’t turn out well. I felt scared of committing myself, now that things are a bit more ‘serious’ now we’re a little bit older, ie. if you have a boyfriend you’re expected to kiss a bit more than a brief peck on the cheek or go out more often than every weekend or spend a lot of time alone just the two of you, right?
So there’s that, I didn’t feel laid back enough to just go for it.
I wanted to know something else too. You know when you’re a teenager, or any other age for that matter, when should you go out with somebody? To me, if you love somebody or feel something special, then you go out. However, should one wait for the right person, or not? I mean, I know people who meet somebody, they decide to date and then they ‘see how it goes’. I think this is scary but reasonable enough providing you don’t know the person tooooo well and are not bound to see them too often if it really doesn’t go well, and also you get (I know it sounds stupid saying this) ‘dating experience’. However, if you know the person well and are friends with them, I don’t think you should ‘try it out and see how you get on’ as it might make things awkward, if it doesn’t turn out well. Of course it might be great and you get to go out with a great person who you already get on with really well. But that would require taking a risk, and not being afraid.
But if you really do wait for the person you fall in love with, there’s no need to worry, is there? because aren’t you supposed to be in love, and everything you do comes naturally?
I don’t know anymore. Let me know what you think if you get the chance please :)